LET IT GO! Here’s the first step towards living a happier, healthier, and smarter life! [Fridays: Mindfulness by Miles]
Miles Everson’s Business Builder Daily speaks to the heart of what great marketers, business leaders, and other professionals need to succeed in advertising, communications, managing their investments, career strategy, and more.
A Note from Miles Everson:
Welcome to “Mindfulness by Miles!”
Every Friday, we talk about various topics that I find useful in my everyday life. These include insights and advice on living your best life, becoming a better version of yourself, letting go of negative thoughts, exercising gratitude, and more.
We hope you’ll also be interested and compelled to apply these tips and lessons in your personal life and career.
Are you ready for today’s topic?
Keep reading below to know some practical ways to let go of all the negativity in your life.
Miles Everson
CEO, MBO Partners
Chairman of the Advisory Board, The I Institute
Mindfulness by Miles
Anger. Hurt. Resentment.
People call these things “baggage” for a reason. They weigh you down, hold you back, and keep you from becoming the person you’re meant to be.
We’re not just talking about feeling down because your mindset is in a bad place at the moment. While it’s true that negative thoughts and emotions weigh on your mind, the effect doesn’t stop there. Negativity and stress also create physiological responses that can cause damage to your body over time.
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In the book, “Game Changers: What Leaders, Innovators, and Mavericks Do to Win at Life,” author Dave Asprey wrote about several proven techniques for becoming happier, healthier, and smarter.
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According to him, wisdom gleaned from highly successful people could be divided into 3 main objectives: Finding ways to become smarter, faster, and happier. Based on conversations with some world-class thought leaders, he was able to compile 46 science-backed, high performance “hacks” that serve as a playbook for how to get better at life.
Miles Everson, CEO of MBO Partners, says he hasn’t read Asprey’s book yet but he’s interested to know more about what amazing insights the author has to offer.
As someone who’s always on the lookout for new knowledge that will help him improve his personal life and career, he’s eager to know Asprey’s practical advice and recommendations for better performance.
He read a synopsis of the book, though. From there, he saw a part in the book that talks about forgiving oneself and letting go of the negativity in one’s life.
Everson also quoted Dr. Joan Rosenberg, a bestselling author, consultant, media host, and clinician who said unpleasant emotions are a part of life. For her, it’s crucial that one knows how to deal with such instances.
Here’s the thing: To successfully do what Rosenberg said, Everson believes the first step you need to take is to forgive yourself. He says to truly move on with your life, you have to stop beating yourself up for things you don’t have control over.
Stop feeling sorry for what isn’t your fault. Instead, choose to be happy and let go of all the negative thoughts and feelings surrounding you!
How can you do this?
- Identify the stories you tell yourself, and STOP LYING to yourself.
According to Everson, your brain plows through a HUGE portion of your body’s energy so it takes the path of least resistance whenever possible to conserve resources.
One of its favorite shortcuts?
Using a story over and over! This is helpful when you’re telling yourself good stories, but sometimes, this is also harmful, especially when your brain is riding on a train of lies.
Example: Every time you remind yourself of what you CANNOT do, your brain will start using that information repeatedly until it becomes a “limiting belief.” Eventually, these beliefs will have a hold on you to the point you think they’re as set-in-stone as your height or eye color.
On the other hand, if you tell yourself stories of how you overcame or can overcome your limitations, you’ll experience positive changes in your life. Your brain will recycle those narratives and will result in an overall brighter outlook.
- Practice forgiveness and gratitude for more positive thinking.
Self-pity is a form of heavy, negative thinking. Another one is being angry with people or situations for no apparent reason.
Everson says there will be instances where you’ll feel angry at someone or someone will feel angry towards you. It’s part of human interaction. It’s how you deal with it that makes the difference.
Example: If someone bumped into you and you perceived it as a shove, you’re going to label that person as aggressive and put your guard up… or if you got triple the workload of your colleagues, you might perceive it as others trying to skate by at your expense.
You see, it’s easy to fall into the “everyone’s out to get me” mode of thinking. This means sometimes, when you think someone slighted you on purpose, the reality is that person didn’t. It could just be you making all those dissociations in your head.
When you start feeling this way, Everson recommends you try to come up with reasons why you’re in that situation or why people seem to treat you like that. Pick a story that allows you to empathize with their behavior.
What else?
Forgiving and letting go of someone or something can help! Doing these literally rewires your brain to dissolve negative feelings about a situation, feel happier in the moment, and train your mind to look for joy and satisfaction in every situation.
We hope you find these tips helpful and insightful!
Everson says he’s been practicing these techniques too… and while he agrees believing in himself and always choosing to forgive and let go of all the bad things are easier said than done, he observes that by choosing to do these tips, he’s helping himself become happier, healthier, and smarter—the main concepts in Asprey’s “Game Changer” book.
May you also make it a habit to choose happiness every day!
Let go of the negativity holding you back. You’ll see, this will have lasting, positive impacts on how you interact with and react to people, and perceive the world around you.
(This article is from The Business Builder Daily, a newsletter by The I Institute in collaboration with MBO Partners.)
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“Fridays: Mindfulness by Miles”
High-performance businesses are run by people who think and act differently.
In other words, these are people who are high-performing individuals.
Companies and individuals of this kind have found ways to escape the grind of commoditization and competition by focusing on the RIGHT goals.
High-performing businesses and individuals are also “return driven” businesses and “career driven” individuals. They conscientiously develop unique capabilities and resources that allow them to deliver offerings in ways no other firm or individual can.
Every Friday, we’ll publish tips and insights from MBO Partners and The I Institute’s “The Business Builder Daily” newsletter.
These will help you gain knowledge on the things that Miles Everson, the CEO of MBO Partners, often talks about regarding the future of the workforce.
We’ll also highlight other mindfulness advice on how you can be a high-performing individual both in your career and personal life.
Hope you’ve found this week’s insight interesting and helpful.
Stay tuned for next Friday’s “Mindfulness by Miles!”
Cheers,
Kyle Yu
Head of Marketing
Valens Dynamic Marketing Capabilities
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